itsstuckyinmyhead:

In honor of my 400th post and reaching 2,500 followers, I have decided to go completely of topic and give you this beauty. If you want more feel free to tell me.

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I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward (via thoughtsfromsomewhere)

I don’t trust anyone who says “I’m here to talk anytime you need me.” THe people who say that are never people I actually want to talk to, aren’t people I have the background trust with. It’s the people who have proven they want to be around me, who spontaneously talk to me and ask how I’m feeling. I’ve made it a point to never promise anything to a depressed person I don’t plan on doing. Or at least that’s what I try.

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tallandsad:

Architects (by Georgia Sassenfeld)

tallandsad:

Architects (by Georgia Sassenfeld)


5weetsorrow:

Sad/Bands/B&W blog

5weetsorrow:

Sad/Bands/B&W blog

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our-twisted-fantasy:

You think no one cares? I care! Come talk to me. I’ll listen. Depressed blog. Remember I love you. Used to be our-twisted-fantasies. Account was terminated. .

our-twisted-fantasy:

You think no one cares? I care! Come talk to me. I’ll listen. Depressed blog. Remember I love you. Used to be our-twisted-fantasies. Account was terminated. .

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me: i am actually so happy with my life right now for once
next day: *everything fucks up*

So this just happened

So this just happened


ellyosa:

thedistantgirl:

plagueutopia:

in-twilight-realms:

image

It’s back

I CANT STOP LAUGHING

this will always be my favorite

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debilitati0n:

modestdemidov:

becausebirds:

LET THERE BE BONES!

make it rain


Teamwork

debilitati0n:

modestdemidov:

becausebirds:

LET THERE BE BONES!

make it rain

Teamwork

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“I mean, that’s the reason he’ll never win, because he’s motivated by hate and the haters never win. I just think that’s true about life, because negative energy always costs in the end.” — Tom Hiddleston

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mylifeaskriz:

ruineshumaines:

Liz Climo on Tumblr.

this really cheered me up

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basedheisenberg:

Being drunk does not excuse cheating.

Being drunk does not excuse rape.

Being drunk does not excuse being an asshole.

Being drunk does not excuse shitty and destructive behavior.

Being drunk is not an excuse.

Control yourself or don’t drink.

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